Wednesday, April 28, 2010

It's not you, it's me.

I am definitely someone who likes to do things myself, especially when it comes to events. Ok so maybe I'm a bit of a control freak. I know this. I've accepted this. I don't mean this as an insult to ANYONE who tries to help me (except #3 below). I truly appreciate the offers for help, but as far as most things are concerned, the reason for me not accepting said help is probably one of the following (this is mainly regarding DIY projects, but #3 refers to decorating):
  1. I don't have a specific vision in mind and am going to make it up as I go along. This is usually the case. I let the creative juices flow and the errors come out until I figure out exactly how I want something to look. I am a planner, but not in the sense that I will map/measure/draw something out ahead of time. When it comes to creating or decorating things, I'm typically a go with the moment type of person.
  2. I have a specific vision in mind, which will only make me look like a beotch if I go back and correct something you've done. I really don't want to do that!
  3. You suck. (This really only applies to one person, who does not read this blog, but I will not name names in case someone else sees it and tells her. Some of you could probably guess who it is since I complain about her... often.)
  4. Honestly? I like doing things alone sometimes. Taking my time, having a glass of wine, while watching a movie or trashy tv show. Plus, I tend to get creative at like midnight because I'm crazy like that. Obviously I'm not going to be like "come over and help!" at 1am.
  5. I really don't have anywhere to do stuff. I tend to like to do crafts while watching bad tv, and, currently, we don't have a tv in our living room, nor even a floor to really sit on and spread out crafts (hardwoods).
  6. I've always really just done things myself, so I'm not used to asking for help from others - or for others wanting to help!
This all being said, I really am trying to utilize help of others, since I know I'll really be needing it soon! Plus, I know when people ask me to help I really enjoy it, so I'm sure other people do, too! I promise it's not you, it's me, and I'm working on it. Once I have final prototypes for DIY projects, I'll definitely be enlisting help of others *cough* Bridesmaid Amanda *cough*. Wedding crap day soon? Your house...

I also have found that this blog has presented me with tons of help from people I wouldn't normally have asked! You never know who might know a jeweler, own a table, have had a good experience with a rental company, etc., until you start asking! In my case, I didn't really ask so much as complain on my blog :) but thanks to everyone who's reached out with helpful tips and contacts - I really appreciate it! I also love finding out all the secret talents my friends have!

This weekend, Bonnie ( & I were dubbed official decorators for Bridesmaid Amanda's wedding. It was more out of necessity, but I don't care cuz I'm so excited! Anyhoo - just wanted to clarify that I am ALL FOR teaming up with people as creative as, if not moreso than, me (and who I like, as opposed to #3 above, who not only sucks, but I can't stand). Collaborations of creative efforts are awesome, I'm just not used to having such collaborations. Bridesmaid Amanda's FH said this weekend that the three of us (me, Amanda, Bonnie) should go into business... and I think we really just might (Behind the Green Veil LLC anyone??). You know, unless one of us moves to California or something...


PS I also enlisted MOH Cassie's mad DIY skillz, but that gets a separate post (or two).


  1. I'm glad I kept reading the post after #3 because I was pissed cause I thought it was me.

    I am right there with you. I usually have no idea how things are going to turn out. I think my talent lies in fixing mistakes rather than planning ahead.

    It will be fun to work together, especially because I think we have the same thing in mind with the Stranbold wedding...and it should be easy.

    I'm liking Behind the Green Veil, LLC. is not available (it's a florist) but is!

  2. what?! why would I say you suck?! plus, it's someone who doesn't read this blog, and I know you stalk me so... not you :)

  3. innnnteresting about the websites... maybe we should snatch that one up!